It Should Be Illegal
It’s not illegal to wake your child, tell them to get dressed, yell at them to “hurry up”, only to laugh at them while telling them it’s a snow day, and school’s been cancelled.
It’s not illegal to threaten your child that if they don’t behave, you’ll throw out or destroy their prized possession.
It’s not illegal to run over your child’s bike bc they left it in the driveway, and you told them to put it away one too many times.
It’s not illegal to tell your kid they’re fat, ugly, stupid, worthless, or even unwanted.
It’s not illegal to manipulate your kids.
It’s not illegal to bully your child. To break their spirit. To make them feel like like the scum of the earth.
When I think back to all the people who said, “it’s not illegal”, it makes me want to vomit.
When I think about all the people who saw what was happening, and never said anything, it makes me want to scream.
Just because it’s not illegal, doesn’t make it ok. There are so many of us out here worrying that we’re not doing a good enough job. As an adult who was a very scared kid, I can assure you, as long as your child FEELS loved, as long as they FEEL safe, as long as they FEEL valuable- that’s “all” they need.
Kids would trade all the toys, all the “stuff”, fancy houses, even food, to feel nurtured and loved. As parents, our job is to love our kids and build them up. You don’t need to be perfect, you just need to love your kids with all your heart.