What’s Really Important To Our Children
In the beginning of my journey as a mom, when I would feel anger and impatience build inside me, I would try to calm myself down, by looking at the humor in the situation. 9 times out of 10, humor alone could diffuse the situation, entirely. So, I created The Mommy Confessions. A place where we could all come, share our experiences, and mostly, laugh our way through parenthood. However, I also think it’s just as important to talk about the difficult, and very real issues of parenthood.
I always thought that I’d be the perfect parent (didn’t we all?). I remember being so helpless and scared as a child. I never wanted my children to feel the way I did. I was going to “show the world how it’s done”. Well… flash forward to my actually being a parent… in a shocking turn of events, I’m not the perfect parent. I fail at parenthood every single day. Some would say I’ve failed my children just by having them on my own. Or, because I’m gay. Yet, my kids KNOW they are loved. They don’t go to sleep afraid at night. They are safe (emotionally & physically). And so far, they are loving, kind, and inclusive. If I can say the same thing in 18 years, then I will have accomplished everything, as a mom.
Looking back, I didn’t need a perfect parent as a kid. What was meaningful to me was that I felt SAFE, LOVED, and IMPORTANT. Don’t judge your parenting on the house you live in, the vacations you take, the toys your kids have, how messy or clean your house is, etc… At the end of the day, NONE of that matters.
Remember mama (or papa, or insert name here), you’re doing great. I know you don’t feel like it. I see you judging yourself as a mom, against other parents you don’t truly know. We all have our struggles. We all have our flaws. We all try to put on our best face, and make it look easy. But, that doesn’t mean it is. Stay strong!
Don’t just tell your kids you love them,