Posts by Alexandra Fisher
Reflecting On My Daughter’s First Year
Tomorrow is my daughter’s first birthday, and this birthday feels especially hard. I’m trying my best to put on a happy face, but every time I look back on this past year, I cry (not that it takes much, but this has become (yet another) soft spot, for me). With my son (I know, I…
Read MoreFocus On Everything You’re Doing Right!
In those moments when your child is in the middle of a meltdown. They’re overtired, you’re overtired, and you’re 2 seconds from joining in on the tantrum, and throwing in the towel. You are still enough. It’s so easy to be critical of all the ways we’re falling short as parents. “I’m not a good…
Read MoreFeeling Robbed Of My Daughter’s First Year
Sometimes I feel like my daughter’s been robbed of her first year (and we’re still not seeing people…). By this point, my son had been on trips, met our relatives, and gone to zoos, museums, and playgrounds, all in the first year. We did Mommy and Me classes, and had baby play dates with other…
Read MoreThe Reality Of Motherhood
When my son was born, I was on a high for the first 24 hours. But, then I crashed. Hard. I literally could not stop crying for the first two weeks of his life. It had nothing to do with him. He was the only thing that made those 2 weeks, bearable. It was the…
Read MoreGetting Pregnant Wasn’t Nearly As Easy As I Had Expected
As soon as I learned about “the birds and the bees”, I was warned, “you must always use protection, because you could get pregnant any time you have unprotected sex!” My mom would tell me, “if your dad sneezed on me, I’d get pregnant.” Then, she’d remind me that I was conceived while she had…
Read MoreYou Are Enough, Mama
I’ll never forget those days and nights when my newborn was inconsolable. He/she (bc it happened with both of my kids. I mean, do any babies not have these moments?) would be fed, burped, changed, and tended to in any way I could. They just wouldn’t stop crying. Some days there was too much background…
Read MoreRegarding Postpartum Depression/Anxiety
I’ve gotten quite a few DMs from moms who are feeling ashamed, bc of their Postpartum Depression and/or Postpartum Anxiety (PPD/PPA). I know the feeling all too well. Mamas, this one goes out to you!! PPD/PPA has nothing to do with your worth as a mom, your appreciation for your children, and your deep, innate…
Read MoreI Always Knew I Wanted To Be A Mom
Since I was a little girl, whenever someone would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I’d always answer, “a mom”. I wanted to have a house full of kids. Literally. When I hit my mid 20’s, and hadn’t met anyone to share my life with, I started to consider having…
Read MoreBeing A (Single) Mom During A Pandemic
Choosing to be a single mother, I expected there to be certain “extra challenges”. I knew it would be hardest when I wasn’t feeling my best. Whether due to sickness, lack of sleep, life… but I also knew I had a very solid support system, and though I was a “single mother”, I by no…
Read MoreWhy I Choose To Be So Vocal About My Journey
When I decided to have kids on my own, I knew it was going to be difficult. But, I never dreamt I’d have to single parent (or live) through a pandemic. I’m not very comfortable sharing my struggles as a mom. I didn’t “happen to get pregnant”. I’m not a single parent, because I was…
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