Posts by Alexandra Fisher
When I Speak My Truth, I Do It For Her
Absolutely nothing against nudists, but I’m the opposite of a nudist. As a matter of fact, I sleep fully clothed, including a bra. I feel more “protected” that way. But, I look back at photos before there was any trauma. Before I knew about fear. Or, shame. A time when I loved my body. Or,…
Read MoreBut, You Look So Pretty When…
My whole life I’ve been told, “you look so pretty when… you wear your hair down; your hair is long; you’re skinnier; you wear more feminine clothing; you wear makeup… blah, blah, blah….” It’s one thing to say, “I love your hair long.” Or, “your straight hair is beautiful.” Even, “that hairstyle is very flattering.”…
Read MoreWe All Need A Village
People often ask me, “how do you do it, as a single mom?” And, honestly, my response has always been, “I have a village.” When I decided to have kids “on my own”, I only did so, knowing I had support. However, I never realized how much I relied on my village, until it was…
Read MoreTalking To Children About Racism
Today, my son said to our babysitter, “your skin color is dirty.” We have books about being anti-racists, racism, all different religions, disabilities, etc… Since he was a baby, I have worked really hard to teach him that all people are equal. All people are beautiful. All people are different. And, to celebrate all of…
Read MorePandemic Parenthood & Mom Guilt
Being a single mom “by choice” means I chose to have these kids, on my own. People often say, “that’s amazing. You’re so brave. I don’t know how you do it.” The truth is, I have lots of support and help. I have a supportive community of family (including my 19 year old aupair who’s…
Read MoreMy Fight Against Postpartum Depression/Anxiety
How Postpartum Depression/Anxiety Has Affected Me My postpartum depression scared me,this past year It told me lies,like I’d never be able to fully bond with my kids That, I’d never be enough,or that they would be better off without me It told me all the ways my kids were missing out,by having me as their…
Read MoreThoughts Are Just, Thoughts.
A lot of people have these things called “intrusive thoughts”. They’re obsessional thoughts, that you can’t get out of your mind. And, they’re usually pretty disturbing. After I had each of my kids, I had a fear I was going to fall while holding them, resulting in them getting really hurt. Or, my babies would…
Read MoreOn Saying “No”
It’s a lot harder than it sounds.I’m not sure why. I feel like I’m supposed to write something more inspirational here, but… I’m a work in progress. This is still very difficult for me. All I know is… for me to say “no”, it takes A LOT. I don’t like letting people down. But, the…
Read MoreI Got Vaccinated!
I have never been so excited to get a shot, or be vaccinated, in my life. I respect everyone’s choice and their opinions on this, but for me… this vaccine is a game changer. This past year was hard on all of us. Personally, I couldn’t stop obsessing about this invisible and mysterious “thing” that…
Read MoreI’m Not The Best Mom, But I’m Far From The Worst Mom
One of my best friends, also a single mom, said to me, “I just wish all these moms would talk about how freaking hard this shit is, instead of posting fake pictures and making this look easy.” I am here to tell all the mamas having a hard time, “you are not alone. Parenting during…
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